drowning

he watches tv to distract himself from the frustrations of watching her use him and abuse herself... she denies the self-defeating habits, the self-destructive decisions she makes every day... she avoids discussion of the deepening hole she digs, financial, emotional, psychological... he helps her as much as he can but she is draining him in every way and he will not be able to dig he, or himself, out if she continues the same pattern of self-destructive behaviors... he does not want to abandon her, but she is dragging him down and will not change...