sinking into the debt trap

so she borrows money to take him out for a birthday dinner and is sad cuz the money arrived late and of course she didn't tell him until he asked several times during the week and then, finally sitting across the table at his birthday dinner, she answers... she does not really understand that her spending addiction has not changed even though she has vastly stepped toward the potential for change by letting him in for letting him see it makes it harder for her to avoid it... and yet tonight, little girl excited because she experienced one of the rare moments when she paid for dinner, he does not want to burst her bubble... he is sad though, for she seems to think that because she borrowed money from a different source this time it is not the same behavior and thinking that got her into the debt trap that put her in debt counseling and keeps her borrowing money from him and when the guilt rises and she does not want him to know, from other sources... more borrowed money, borrowed trouble, peter to paul, and always sinking deeper into debt... she did tell him though, that is another step forward... though it took several questions at different times and an awkward moment teetering on break down until he let it brush aside which may be his biggest mistake because it is continuing the enabling... but how do you confront someone addicted to debt when she is sitting across from you all excited at your birthday dinner - even if she bought it on borrowed money...